Hi there! Welcome to our family adoption blog! 🙂 Here is the first post. More to come.
GREAT NEWS! We’ve decided to adopt a child!
The short story:
We’re Josh and Kim. We currently have two little ones- Eli (3) and Ana (1). We lived overseas for a bit and now we are back in the States. We love other cultures, we love being parents. We have a heart for adoption and have a deep desire to give a loving home to a child in need.
How much does it cost? Why so much?
You may wonder why it costs so much to adopt internationally. A small portion goes to our adoption agency to help fund the home studies, paperwork, fingerprinting, and such. The majority goes to pay government fees and agency fees in the other country (such as visas, current foster care, medical, court fees, etc)
- Application: $350
- USCIS-1600A & Fingerprints: $890
- Home Study $3000
- Program Fee: $7000
- Foreign Fee & Program support fee: $24,500
- Post Placement Fee: $2000
- Travel: Varies (2 trips)
- Total: $37,740 + Travel
How long will it take??
Every adoption journey is different, but here is a general timeline:
Home Study (3-4 months)
Referral (3-4 months after home study)
Updates every 3 months
First trip to South Korea (18 months after referral)
Final trip to South Korea to pick up child (20 months after referral)
Why South Korea?
Every year, hundreds of infants are abandoned on the streets of Seoul (ever seen the movie Dropbox? If not, I’d encourage you to watch it!). There are always many reasons for a child to be orphaned. Parents may die, be unable to raise a child, or feel it best to give the child up. It is not an easy decision. South Korea is a shame based society. If a teenager gets pregnant out of wedlock, it brings great shame to their family. Girls can be kicked out of school, out of family, and children born outside of marriage are not treated kindly by society. Unfortunately many young mothers contemplate suicide, abortion, or abandonment. The option to give the child up for adoption gives both the child and mother hope for a brighter, loving future. Many times girls are more quickly adopted domestically, but boys remain orphans. After six months of looking domestically, children are able to be adopted internationally. Waiting children come in daily.
We’ll have monthly fundraisers and will be keeping a blog!
Join us here: http://jcjunkie.com/adoption/
Wanna know a bit more about our hearts… read on.
Why do we want to adopt?
As long as we’ve been married we’ve always thought about adoption. The question was never if we would adopt. It was always just when and where from. We’ve lived overseas for the last several years, we started a business, and had a big move. We’ve had two children in the midst of it all, but all along the way, I’ve been praying for our waiting child. Longing to know who this child would be that God would choose. This past Mother’s Day we just really felt that we should move forward. If we’re honest, we can’t afford to adopt. We have the funds once the child is with us- but the adoption process is very expensive. We just moved back from overseas (living on a third of an American salary) and then started our own business. But, we really believe that this is the direction the Lord is moving us in.
We know it will be quite the journey and process ahead. We know it will change the dynamics of our family for generations to come. We know that this is a different path and that we might sound crazy for pursuing it. But we also know that God provides. Our hearts are on fire for this child, whoever he or she may be. We can’t stop thinking about it, talking about it, praying about it. We know that God is a giver and that He longs to see the orphan cared for. We are trusting that if He wants us to adopt this child, He will raise the funds we need and bring this child home.
Why do we feel moved to adopt, you might wonder? There’s so much on our hearts and minds it’s hard to put into words. But, here it is in a nutshell:
We love being parents.
Not just a little bit- but we really enjoy being parents. We are so grateful for the jobs that we have been in over the last few years because it has allowed BOTH of us to be an active part in our children’s daily lives. We get to be there for all the moments, we get to shepherd them together, throughout the day. We’ve been able to trade off with work and kids, and have come to realize just how fortunate we are to spend each day with them. We are both there for the little moments and the big. We get to shepherd them, play with them, love on them. We long to give that love and to embrace a child that wouldn’t have parents otherwise. Our children are a blessing, a ministry, and a true gift. We want our biological and adopted children to know that they are loved and are worth investing in.
We also have a passion for the unreached, the unwanted, the overlooked.
This seems to be a theme in our lives. When we moved to Asia, we chose a people that was often overlooked, on the fringe of society- but we loved them. We learned their language, we embraced their customs, and we were the first foreigner to ever do so. We became part of their family. We loved them deeper than we knew was possible. God calls us to love the widow and the orphan too. He calls us to reach out to the unreached. I want them to realize that they are loved. They are cared for. They are unique and beautiful, and that God sees them as well. I want to be a friend, a mentor, and a parent to one who may otherwise be overlooked.
We have a heart for Asia.
We spent five years as a married couple in Indonesia, and as singles we also spent time in Thailand, Bangladesh, the Philippines, and Honduras. God has wired us to love on and embrace other cultures. When we were overseas we were basically adopted into another people group- so you could say, we’ve been part of a multi-cultural family before, and we loved it. Of course it was challenging- but it was worth it. Our love for Asia runs deep. Sometimes we even say Asia is in our blood. Adopting internationally just seems to make sense. When I see someone of a different race, a different religion, a different culture- my heart lurches. I long to be their friend. I want to know their story. There is no judgement at all- I simply love Asians & Arabs. We already think cross-culturally, we learn other languages, we love travel, and we will saturate our home with a love for their birth country. We’ll visit, we’ll celebrate, we’ll learn, and we’ll teach them and the rest of our family about their heritage, which will become a part of our own. In other words, we are not taking a child from their culture, but we’ll bring their culture with us.
God adopted us
Lastly, and perhaps the most important reason we want to adopt is because God adopted us. He adopted me. Wow. I was abandoned. I was orphaned. I was from a different race- but He grafted us in. There is no judgement, no separation. He is my father. Those who follow him are my brothers and sisters. What an incredible picture. I hardly feel worthy to have a parallel picture of that in our family- but to grasp this image of being adopted into God’s family, gives me shivers. It makes me excited to graft in an orphan into our own family and show them unconditional, unfathomable love.
Thank you so much for being a part of our lives and helping accomplish something that’s important to all of us!